well, have been holed up at home of late trying to study but not very successful looking at the speed i'm covering my textbook and notes. *sighs*

during a recent catch-up session with a few girlfriends.

me : so mimi, are you attached?
mimi : yup.
chacha : how long liao? how you know him?
mimi : 6 months lor. he is the senior consultant in my current company.
sasa : not bad ar! you got your australia pr liao right? so you intend to go back there? to renew the 5 years validity pr, you must stay in australia for 2 years out of 5 years right?
mimi : ya, plan to ask company to transfer me there maybe next year. then apply for spouse pr for him.
me : wa, so fast you and him talk about this ar? i mean its like only 6 months lei! *gasp*
mimi : this one good lei. i must grab liao. don't waste time. not young already!
sasa : how come good? he very nice to you?
mimi : he "ba heng kuai"! (translates - climb the corporate ladder very fast)
me, sasa & chacha : *faints*

p.s : note that names has been changed

mimi is a steady pom pee pee friend of mine that knows what she wants and how to get it. all her past string of boyfriends were rich. we are always amazed by her ability to spot rich guys in pubs or among the crowd. i mean who goes about asking "hey, do you drive? what car? what does your family do?" to find a rich mr right, right? but she has the uncanny sense to sniff out such guys even without asking. i really really really take my hat off to her.

i totally agree on her viewpoint. or rather, all of us (me, sasa & chacha) do. but the 3 of us never follow our heads, instead we chose to follow our hearts. all 3 of us fell in love with guys that has qualifications below us, poor and definitely don't "ba heng kuai". [ edited on 7 April 2005 : i just want to emphasize that me, sasa and chacha are very happy in our current relationships. we love our other half madly, deeply and unconditionally. we accept them for who they are, if not, why would we chosen them to be our beloved in the first place. ]

although i don't practice what i think, i always preach to my single friends, buddies and sister to date, fall in love and marry rich guys. minimium standard of rich guys - stay in condo, drives a bmw and runs a family-owned business. other things like age and appearance don't really matter. love can be grown as evident in match-making era of my grandma.

being a resonable person, i don't go about promoting this theory of mine without my valid reason of course. i vividly remember this real life story i've read in a magazine.

a world famous watch maker (i forgot his name but his watches are retailing for like $10,000 and above) had married his childhood sweetheart of 30 years. she had stood by him throughout all the hard times. gave him her moral support. they had a beautiful relationship and 3 beautiful children.

he works from this workshop near his home to make watches to be distributed around the world for exhorbitant sums. every morning, he would see this girl walk past his workshop at 9am. he became really curious about the girl. so one day, he stood at the door of the workshop and decided to say something to the girl "hi, good morning. nice weather today!". the girl smiled.

as time passes, a greeting became an affair. finally, he decides to come clean with the wife and marry the girl. he went home and simply told the wife "i've fallen in love with another girl." the wife nodded her head and soon they were divorced. everything happened amicably. then he married the girl and live till this day.

its not that he didn't love his wife at the beginning. he had loved her. but he fell in love with another girl years after.

after i've finished reading the article, i felt mortified. its just so scary.

the guy that tells you "i love you" today might not feel the same for you tomorrow. feelings can change without a warning within seconds.

i think thats my greatest fear, that one day, my dar wakes up and tells me "i do not love you anymore" and worse if "i've fallen in love with someone else" and the worstest would be "i've fallen in love with a man"!

so i always say, in order to be less pathetic when such a scenerio arises, marry a rich guy so that if it happens, you've got half of his money. of course, given a choice, i would still choose love. but if no love, then at least got money ma, right?